日期：2017-04-15 13:26:00 来源：www.jnzyxlzx.com
9 kinds of words and deeds details affect relationships:
1, there is a good thing not notified to send items in the unit, bonuses, etc, you know, or have already received, sat there silently, like a fine, never notified to you, some things can be cut, never gang brought about. This a few times down, others will naturally have thoughts, think you are too aloof, lack of common sense and cooperation spirit. Later they have know in advance, or something got first, also can not tell you. So, our relationship is not harmonious.
2、明知而推说不知 同事出差去了，或者临时出去一会儿，这时正好有人来找他，或者正好来电话找他，如果同事走时没告诉你，但你知道，你不妨告诉他们；如果你确实不知，那不妨问问别人，然后再告诉对方，以显示自己的热情。明明知道，而你却直通通地说不知道，一旦被人知晓，那彼此的关系就势必会受到影响。外人找同事， 不管情况怎样，你都要真诚和热情，这样，即使没有起实际作用，外人也会觉得你们的同事关系很好。
2, know perfectly well and said he didn't know colleagues went on a business trip, or temporary go out for a while, just someone to find him at this moment, or just to phone call for him, if walking colleagues didn't tell you, but you know, you might as well tell them; If you really don't know, it might as well ask someone else, and then tell each other, to show his enthusiasm. Clearly know, and ZhiTongTong to say you don't know, once one knows, that their relationship is bound to be affected. Outsiders find colleagues, no matter what, you are sincere and enthusiasm, in this way, even if there is no actual role, outsiders will also feel that your colleagues have a good relationship.
3、进出不互相告知 你有事要外出一会儿，或者请假不上班，虽然批准请假的是领导，但你更好要同办公室里的同事说一声。即使你临时出去半个小时，也要与同事打个招呼。这样，倘若领导或熟人来找，也可以让同事有个交待。如果你什么也不愿说，进进出出神秘兮兮的，有时正好有要紧的事，人家就没法说了，有时也会懒得说， 受到影响的恐怕还是自己。互相告知，既是共同工作的需要，也是联络感情的需要，它表明双方互有的尊重与信任。
3, in and out not inform each other You have something to go out for a while, ask for leave or not to work, although the approved leave is to lead, but you'd better say with the colleague in the office. Even if you temporarily out half an hour, also want to say hello with my colleagues. So, if the leadership or acquaintances to find, also can let colleagues have a confessed. If you don't want to say anything, secretive in and out, sometimes have the very important thing, people can not be said, sometimes too lazy to say, may be affected. Inform each other, both the need of work, also is the need of contact feelings, it shows that both sides mutual respect and trust.
4, not private, so to speak Some private matter can not be said, but some private affairs about also did no harm. Such as your boyfriend or girlfriend's work unit, educational background, age, and temper, etc.; If you are married and have children, also have closed the topics in lover and children. After work, can have a chat, by the way, it can enhance understanding, deepen the feelings. If these details are secret, never and others said, how can this be colleagues? No words do not say, usually indicates deep feelings; Have words do not say, nature shows that the alienation of interpersonal distance. You take the initiative to talk to someone about something personal, other people will say to you, sometimes can also help each other. You said nothing, what also don't let people know, somebody else how to trust you?
5, something would not seek help from colleagues Don't ask for easily, that's right. Because ask for trouble to others. But everything is dialectical, sometimes help others instead to show you to others' trust, rapport, deepen the feelings. Such as your body is bad, your colleague's lover is a doctor, you don't know, but you can go to find, through introducing the colleagues must hurry to diagnosis, clinical clip figure. If you would not help, colleagues know, will feel that you don't trust somebody else instead. You don't want to ask for, the somebody else is also embarrassed to ask you; Are you afraid of trouble, people will think you are afraid of trouble. A good interpersonal relationship is the premise of each other and help each other. Help others, therefore, in the general case is ok. Of course, want to pay attention to.
6、拒绝同事的“小吃” 同事带点水果、瓜子、糖之类的零食到办公室，休息时分吃，你就不要推，不要以为难为情而一概拒绝。有时，同事中有人获了奖或评上了职称什么的， 大家高兴，要他买点东西请客，这也是很正常的，对此，你可以积极参与。你不要冷冷坐在旁边一声不吭，更不要人家给你，你却一口回绝，表现出一副不屑为伍或不稀罕的神态。人家热情分送，你却每每冷拒，时间一长，人家有理由说你清高和傲慢，觉得你难以相处。
6, refused to colleagues "snack" colleagues bring some fruits, such as melon seeds, sugar, snacks to the office, rest time to eat, you don't push, don't assume that embarrassed and refused. Sometimes, some of colleagues got a prize or judge on the title, everybody happy, asked him to do some shopping treat, this also is very normal, to this, you can actively participate in. You don't cold sitting next to a silent, not to mention the somebody else give you, but you have rebuffed, interacting in a show disdain or not rarity. Somebody else's enthusiasm distributed, but you often cold shut, over time, you have reason to be arrogant and overbearing, think you hard to get along with.
And, often, and a "whispering" office with several people, every one of you to try and keep balance, remain the state of a distance as far as possible, that is to say, don't be some one very close or distant. In normal times, don't always with the same person whisper, don't always in and out and a person. Otherwise, you two may be close to, but may be more distant. Some people thought you in little cliques. If you often with the same person "whispering", others come in and say, then people inevitably produce your idea in speak ill of somebody else.
8, keen to listen the housework can say the somebody else will say, can't say don't dig it. Everyone has their own secret. Sometimes, people don't pay attention to the secret slip, the tongue of the heart, you don't want to listen, not to want to question. Some people are eager to snoop, everything all want to understand clearly, just becomes all want to know, such people are looked down by others. Do you like to listen, even if what also have no, the somebody else will avoid you. In a sense, pry into private affairs, is a kind of immoral behavior.
9, like to take advantage on the mouth In colleagues, some people always want to take advantage in the mouth. Some people like to joke, others for somebody else's cheap, it is a joke, also never ended in his harm; Some people like to argue, is to fight, not to contend for three points; Some people regardless of the affairs of state, or daily life trivial, see to see a flaw, it catches on, don't want to let the other side lost; Some people have already for countless problems, also want to contend for the bottom; Some people often take the initiative to attack, the somebody else say him, he always said the somebody else first.
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