日期：2020-06-16 14:50:14 来源：www.jnzyxlzx.com
In the past, as long as you work hard, but it will have a peaceful day, but now it is very different. The value of the capital market is "change". Even adults still don't understand what to do. In addition to reading, getting into a good school life, looking for a good company to work for, saving and thrifty life style, they don't know what to do, of course, they don't put teenagers.
Dilemma 1: Psychology of insecurity in the future: low wage environment
In social life, psychological stability and economic stability are the most basic foundation, but in modern society, working hours are long, wages are low, unemployment rate is high, the gap between the rich and the poor is large, class discrimination, education devaluation, too much information, and value is uncertain. When life is out of control and family and career are far away from us, how can young people have expectations and interests for the future?
Dilemma 2: unstable dependence -- family crisis
Economic instability affects the breadwinners. Whether it's a family with two employees or a single parent, whether it's a family that has been separated from the parent-child relationship for a long time due to work, or a poor couple full of grief and constant marital conflicts, the parents themselves are in deep trouble. Of course, they can't pay enough attention to teenagers, so they are deeply worried about life and lack of contact.
Children from abnormal families seek compensation, prove themselves in the "social circle" and find alternative relationships in the "relationship". Economic poor children are precocious and force themselves to become mature under the mask of society. Making money is their only value. However, external compensation is blind, and many children are grinding their teeth to curb frustration, just like gambling on the edge of a cliff. (another reference is Zhao Jianbin's "I want to go back to find my father, I'm afraid that he will starve to death". The teenager ran out of the shelter many times, but saw the disabled father >)
Dilemma 3: physical and mental imbalance -- adolescence
Adolescence is a transitional period from childhood to adulthood. Great changes have taken place in physique, sexual characteristics, endocrine, psychology, etc. from immature to mature, from lack of ability to sound function, cognitive beliefs and world outlook have gradually formed. However, the modern diet is too fine, too many processed products and additives, leading to premature physical development, early menstruation, rapid physical development, mental development is not synchronous, there is no thinking training and emotional education, and become "the body of children manipulating adults". Society thinks teenagers are ready, but they are not.
Dilemma 4: Spiritual Crisis: lack of self-identity and professional orientation
Life stability, interpersonal support and physical health are the basic soil of spiritual growth. When basic conditions are inadequate, spiritual growth may stagnate.
Whether it is material poverty or spiritual deprivation, young people are facing a hopeless future and do not know what to do. As psychologist Eriksson said, "self identification", teenagers need to explore and experience, find social interest and career direction, but when they lack the foundation (thinking ability, intimate relationship), they have to follow the path and imitate the role of others. Some people are very busy, some people are not angry. Their crisis is a lack of their own stories, identity and career. Some teenagers suffer from loneliness for a long time, with no outlet for depression. Dangerous stimuli in life unconsciously awaken the sense of existence, such as wrist cutting, train jumping, drug taking, excitement and painful life
We live in a society that teaches nothing but reading. The class differences are so obvious. For example, architects are easily despised by stereotypes, rather than "craftsmen" respected by the Japanese. These hidden rules are absorbed, abused and despised by teenagers. After entering the society, almost all teenagers live on their own. However, the so-called "independence" needs the support of many conditions: life stability, relationship support, education and guidance are very important. They can complement each other only when the basic conditions are sufficient to hold them accountable.
As supporting parents, they need further education and help. Parents are also affected by the capital society. They are either too busy and have no time, or they are not mature and do not know themselves. It is difficult to play the power of relationship support and parenting.
We live in a system, we can't see a person from a single perspective. We think about living conditions, family relations and social values, just like teenagers, parents and us. Don't judge young people too early, give each other more opportunities, help each other and face the psychological uneasiness of this era.
The above is the relevant content introduced by Jinan psychological consultation group. If you want to know more, please visit the website: http://www.jnzyxlzx.com