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面对抑郁者 我们需要注意的几句话
日期:2020-08-11 11:55:23 来源:www.jnzyxlzx.com

每个人都有抑郁情绪,但抑郁症却是非常严重的一种病症,当我们身边的人患有抑郁症时,我们总是想着时间去安慰他,帮他走出困境,恢复到正常生活来。

Everyone has depression, but depression is a very serious disease. When people around us suffer from depression, we always want to comfort him at the first time, help him out of difficulties and return to normal life.

殊不知,正是我们一些看似安慰的话,却让他们越陷越深,导致病情加重,例如以下句式,简直是语言杀手,面对抑郁症患者一定要注意:

However, it is our seemingly comforting words that make them sink deeper and deeper, leading to the aggravation of their illness. For example, the following sentence pattern is a language killer. We must pay attention to the patients with depression:


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1. 相信我,你一定会好起来的

Believe me, you will get better

一般来说,当身边的人遇到什么挫折或者不幸时,我们总是想着去正向激励他们,帮助他们走出困境,但面对抑郁症患者的时候,这句话还是尽量不说,因为抑郁症患者的情绪在一定程度上并不受自己控制,并充满挫败感和无助感,就像一个人深陷泥潭,越挣扎陷得越深,而不再挣扎时,却要忍受泥潭的污渍和包围。而我们告诉他这句话就相当于我们在岸口告诉他先迈左腿再迈右腿一样无效。

Generally speaking, when people around us encounter setbacks or misfortunes, we always want to positively motivate them and help them out of difficulties. However, when facing patients with depression, we try not to say this sentence, because the mood of patients with depression is not controlled by themselves to a certain extent, and is full of frustration and helplessness, just like a person in a deep quagmire and struggling more and more The deeper you get, and when you no longer struggle, you have to endure the stains and encirclement of the mire. And we told him this sentence is equivalent to telling him to step on his left leg first and then his right leg at the mouth of the bank.

2. 别总自己呆着,你应该多出去走走

Don't stay by yourself, you should go out more

抑郁症的主要症状是失眠和嗜睡以及大脑思维混乱不堪。同时也会变得懒惰,不愿意运动,多出去走走确实能缓解一定的抑郁情绪,但抑郁症患者在与病症对抗时,往往没有足够的毅力和精力去抵抗,这时我们应该做的是邀请他一起出去走走,去作为他的外在支柱,给予他一定的力量。而不是去要求他应该怎样。

The main symptoms of depression are insomnia and sleepiness, as well as disordered thinking in the brain. At the same time, they will become lazy and unwilling to exercise. Going out more can indeed relieve certain depression. However, when patients with depression confront the disease, they often do not have enough perseverance and energy to resist. What we should do at this time is to invite him to go out for a walk, to be his external pillar, and to give him certain strength. Instead of asking what he should do.

3. 你这样下去,对得起XX吗

Do you deserve XX if you go on like this

这句话其实对于他们来讲是更不能接受的,他们往往会有一定的无助感和自责,抑郁症也不是他们自己主动想要得的,他们往往会自我否定,尤其会对爱、亲近关系的人的语言暴力以达到自我惩罚的目的,所以,这句话只会给他更大的压力,而不是缓解他们的情况。

In fact, this sentence is the most unacceptable for them. They often have a certain sense of helplessness and self blame. Depression is not what they want on their own initiative. They tend to deny themselves, especially verbal violence to those who love and are close to each other to achieve the goal of self punishment. Therefore, this sentence will only give them greater pressure, not relieve their situation 。


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4. 比你难过的人多了去了,为什么你就不能改变呢

There are more people who are sad than you. Why can't you change it

这句话和上句话同样并不能减轻抑郁症患者的痛苦。当你向他说出这句话时,他反而会感觉更脆弱和可怜,看似是支持和安慰的话,在他们听来更像是嘲讽和讥笑。

This sentence, like the previous sentence, does not alleviate the suffering of patients with depression. When you say this to him, he will feel more vulnerable and pitiful. What seems to be support and comfort is more like ridicule and ridicule to them.

5. 你把负面情绪都传染给我了,我真是受不了了

5. I can't stand you infecting me with all your negative emotions

负面情绪确实会传染的,但是,在我们照顾抑郁症患者时,也需要照顾到自己的情绪,抑郁症患者他们更担心的就是因为自己的状态而影响到别人,给别人带来麻烦,所以,当我们向他们传达不满时,只会让他们更加否定自己,从而做出更危险的举动。

Negative emotions can be contagious, but when we take care of patients with depression, we also need to take care of their own emotions. The most worrying thing of depression patients is that their state will affect others and bring trouble to others. Therefore, when we convey dissatisfaction to them, we will only make them more negative about themselves, thus making them more dangerous actions.

以上的话语只是类似情况比较典型和常见的几句,在安慰抑郁症患者的时候,我们往往是非常理智的去看待他们的问题,却没有从他们的角度思考,在面对他们时,我们虽然无法感同身受的去了解他们的世界,但是我们可以让他知道他现在的状态和行为是可以被理解的。

The above words are just a few typical and common sentences in similar situations. When comforting patients with depression, we tend to look at their problems rationally, but we don't think from their perspective. In the face of them, although we can't understand their world with empathy, we can let him know that his current state and behavior can be justified Yes.


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