日期：2016-11-23 16:04:46 来源：www.jnzyxlzx.com
Now we are more likely to feel the pressure of society, in the face of pressure or trouble, we will talk to friends, complain, the same, we will receive from friends to talk and complain. How should we respond to complaints from friends?
First, identify with each other's pain, rather than provide a solution to the problem. When a person begins to complain, not in order to seek a solution to the problem, just to express inner feelings and feelings, and in order to feel the value of their own in the complaint. Express and give vent to the mood is very good understanding, to the people of things to the outside world is always need some way to vent. Another way to complain is to understand that you see how miserable I am! I can bear so much pain, you can not imagine it? If you put me in this position, you may not be able to bear these! You admire me! In other words, usually this kind of friends because perennial accumulation self pity, that sense of inferiority is very heavy, don't feel what is worth showing off or to. A vicious spiral, for their miserable condition in endurance, but will feel that she is proud of.
Two, give him a more tragic story. The friend, though proud of his situation, complained that the pressure in front of him was beyond his limits. Simply be sure that he is likely to be in a strong negative mood. So the second step should be done, is to give him a more tragic story.
There is no absolute value of the person's happiness, are relatively speaking. So when you have a friend to come to you to complain, if you are sure that your friend did not intend to do some of the fundamental changes in their own, then to his help is to give him a more tragic story, let him re ignite hope.