日期：2017-02-08 14:02:23 来源：www.jnzyxlzx.com
Wood 1 years old, my mother often took him out to play, meet people, wood Mubuken greeting, do not want to talk to him, my mother would say that: "this child is very shy." My mother thought the child couldn't understand when not a small thing, but wood is 5 years old, my mother's words are like seeds spread to take root in his heart, and gradually become his self evaluation standard, the results, to be the kind of mother said really wood in imperceptibly. People for a long time, wood is still very shy, he often to repeat her mother's words. "Mom said I was a shy child." When my mother heard the child so evaluation of their own, regret, did not expect to diagnose their unconscious, should be in the hearts of young children branded.
In the minds of children, adults are great, they know everything equal to anything. The child is always unconditional recognition and acceptance of his parents' evaluation, can not analyze and judge the correctness of these evaluations. When children are parents told "you are a shy child, he will think you really are not good at dealing with people, and avoidance behavior; if the parents say" how can you be so stupid, he will feel very nervous, often show more stupid. To the child arbitrarily labeled, will lead to a variety of psychological complex children. Negative evaluation of parents not only at that time will make the child unhappy, but also in his subconscious to leave a deep mark.
Except you are……" The direct dialogue, the child may also inadvertently hear their parents talk to others in their own evaluation. This unintentional information, as well as the conscious access to information stored in the child's brain, affecting the formation of self-concept. Many parents will like the animal husbandry mother, think the child is young, do not understand the words of adults, people will not pay attention to the child after the evaluation of their predecessors. Boston University psychology professor Dr. Gleason believes that ex - pork accounted for more than 1 years of age: children are able to clearly understand the complex adult conversation, they far more than people imagine much smarter!
A survey showed that: 90% in the quality, consciousness and intelligence of the outstanding performance of the people, almost in their childhood or adolescence have been a positive hint from their loved ones, most of them from the mother. A positive hint is the expression of love, not an exaggeration, a display, or a cover up for weakness. Use positive language certainly exaggerate the child, the child's strengths, reduce the disadvantages, create a "can do" psychological atmosphere, children's good habits and emotions will follow, this is the so-called "hint of parenting". Experts believe that: positive suggestions, especially from relatives, friends or teachers, almost certainly will have a good effect on the child's psychological, mental.