日期：2017-03-15 17:35:35 来源：www.jnzyxlzx.com
我的性格比较内向，到了一个新单位不能很快适应。同事觉得我不会主动跟人沟通，很多时候，我不知道该不该说话，有时说一些话，别人又觉得不能接受。 怎么改变才能增强适应能力呢？另外，大学时的心理老师说，人的气质分为4种类型，抑郁质类型据说是不好的，这样的人天生就是有缺陷的。如果我恰好是这种气 质类型，怎样才能正常生活，与别人正常交往呢？
My personality is very shy, can't adapt to a new unit. Colleagues think that I will not take the initiative to communicate with people, most of the time, I don't know should speak, said some words, sometimes people think can't accept it. How to change to enhance the ability to adapt? In addition, the college psychology teacher said that the temperament of the people is divided into four types, melancholic temperament type is said to be bad, such a person is inherently flawed. If I happen to be the gas type, how can a normal life, normal communication with others?
心理学是一种解释系统，但不是唯一的，也不是最有效的。性格的分类只是帮助科学家在研究人类行为、气质、心理特征、情绪规则方面便于交流，不是 让每个人去对号入座。人的心智有一种无意识求证的功能，当我们学到一个东西时，就会在内心去探求，结果会发现自己跟那个东西有相似之处。如果你认定自己是 内向的，那么，你内向的行为会被内心知觉放大，开朗活泼的时候就自然减少，在新同事面前就会更多关注对方不好的回应，对同事的赞许、认可视而不见。我猜那 些不好的感觉是你自己产生并投射到同事身上的，你看到的是自己的内心。正如在黑暗中我们手里举着灯，看到的与我们照射的方位有关，那些未被照亮的部分也许 才是我们的本质，但我们不知道。
Psychology is a kind of interpretation system, but not the only one, also is not the most effective. Character classification is helping scientists in the study of human behavior, temperament, psychological characteristics, emotional rules to facilitate communication, not let everyone accordingly. The mind have a kind of unconscious proof function, when we learn a thing, will be in your heart to search, the results may find themselves with that things have in common. If you decided that you are introverted, so, your introverted behaviour will be inner perception amplifier, cheerful and lively natural decrease, when I was in front of the new colleagues will pay more attention to the other party not good responded, ignore colleagues praise and recognition. I guess that some bad feeling is you produce and projection to coworkers, you see is your own heart. As our hands holding the lamp in the dark, see related to illuminate the orientation of the us, those who are not part of the light may be our nature, but we don't know.
人格的分类描述把人们引入一个误区，其实并没有什么人是单一性格的。人的性格是复杂的，多样的，齐头并进，共生发展。各种性格也没有好坏优劣之 分。有时性格的表达是一种人主动选择的结果，是会受我们的经历、年龄、信息储备、价值观、外界评价等因素影响。很多时候，我们的选择只是为了我们对自己的 处境合理化。后现代的心理学认为，人不仅不能被分类出人格类型，连“自我”也是不存在的。希腊神话中阿狄浦斯王因为悔恨，最后弄瞎自己的眼睛，凭着听力， 在一片寂静、黑暗的世界里，真正的“自我”呈现了，他得到更新，从悔恨中解脱。其实，这还是神话，在寂静黑暗中感觉到的仍不能算自我，那也只是“自我”的 投影，正如镜子里的“我”不是我一样。所以，改变对自己的看法就会改变你的心理、情绪和行为。
The classification of the personality description is bringing people a myth, in fact no one is a single character. Personality is complex, diverse, go hand in hand, coexistence and development. No good or bad or all kinds of character. Sometimes the expression of personality is the result of a person take the initiative to choose, is subject to our experience, age, information evaluation factors such as reserves, values, the outside world. Most of the time, our choice just for us to rationalization of our situation. Postmodern psychology think, people not only can't be sorted out personality types, even the "self" is not exist. Greek mythology china-arab Oedipus the king because of regret, finally blinded their eyes, with listening, in silence, the darkness of the world, the true "self" shows, he got updates, free from guilt. In fact, this is the myth, in the silent darkness feel still cannot calculate self, it is only a projection of "self", as the mirror of the "I" is not me. So, change the opinion of himself will change your mind, emotion and behavior.