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家长如何提高孩子的积极性您清楚吗?
日期:2017-09-11 16:05:04 来源:www.jnzyxlzx.com

一, 首先,学会欣赏孩子
First, learn to appreciate children
被欣赏的小孩会更加有动力,我们要抓住一切恰当的机会去称赞他。记住,要真诚,不要为了夸奖为去讨好似的赞美,一定要发自内心的表扬。比如,孩子的作文写得不错,就要抓住机会跟孩子爸爸夸奖他;孩子成绩比上一次考得好要夸奖他又超越自己了,很棒……类似夸奖,相信妈妈们是最在行的。
Children who are appreciated will be more motivated, and we should seize all appropriate opportunities to praise him. Remember, be sincere and don't praise for compliments. Praise from the bottom of your heart. For example, the child's composition is well written, it is necessary to seize the opportunity to praise his father and children; children's achievements than the last exam well, to praise him, and beyond themselves, great...... Similar to praise, I believe mothers are the most competent.
让孩子享受被欣赏的感觉,这是他们学习的动力。如果你发现孩子在该学习的时候去玩游戏了,一定要及时的去提醒他,现在如果去学习你就会更棒,如果不学习可能会退步哦,你自己决定吧。相信一个内心渴望优秀的小孩都会乖乖的回去学习的。
Let children enjoy the feeling of appreciation, which is the driving force of their learning. If you find that your child is learning to play the game, be sure to remind him in time. If you study now, you will be better. If you don't study, you may walk backwards. You decide for yourself. Believe that an inner desire for good children will obediently go back to study.
二, 为孩子确立一个新形象
Two, establish a new image for your child
如果很不巧,你的孩子现在已经出现很厌学,不爱学习的现象,一定不要强化他现在的表现,不要说“你怎么这么不爱学习啊,你看隔壁的孩子,人家比你强很多”“你这孩子除了学习不行,其他的还挺好的”等等言论都是不可取的,这样会让固化孩子的不好表现。
If unfortunately, your child is now very tired, do not love learning phenomenon, must not strengthen his performance now, don't say "how do you do not love learning ah, you see the next child, much stronger than you people" "your child in addition to learning is good not, his" speech and so on are not desirable, it will make the curing children's bad performance.
要这样描述孩子。家里来了一个客人,你的孩子可能恰巧正在看书呢。你就可以对客人说,我这孩子特别喜欢看书,他有很高的学习兴趣。就这样描述。要知道我们每天也在接受别人的描述,别人的描述对我们都是有影响的。如果大家都说一个孩子不爱学习,你看他什么感觉?噢,他可能更不爱学习。孩子有一天写作业,哪怕他过去学习不好,但是这一次作业写得很好,你说,我的孩子学习特别好。要做得自然,不要做得不自然,就好像你过去对孩子特粗暴,现在猛然一变,孩子不知道干什么了,一定要自然。
Describe the child this way. There's a visitor at home, and your child might be reading a book. You can say to the guest, "my child likes reading very much, he has very high study interest.". Describe it like this. You see, every day we are accepting other people's descriptions, and the descriptions of others affect us all. If everyone says a child doesn't like studying, what do you think he feels? Well, he probably doesn't like studying much. The child writes his homework one day even though he didn't study well in the past, but this time he writes very well, and you say, my child studies very well. To do it naturally, do not do unnatural, as if you used to be particularly rude to children, and now suddenly changed, the child does not know what to do, must be natural.

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三, 学会与孩子谈判,做有立场的家长
Three, learn to negotiate with children, and parents who have a position
孩子出现厌学心理,你起着决定性的作用,你可以这样去与他谈,首先微笑,很友好的微笑,禁忌指责,你要将对方看成是一个跟你一样平等的人,拍拍他的肩或摸摸他的头。说:“看上去很好看(电视节目),看上去很好玩(游戏)。”“我们一起吧!可以给我讲讲吗?"电视节目完毕或游戏结束,“我们可以来个约定吗?”“你只要能回答我提出的一个问题,你就可以再玩半个小时。”只要他回答出来,你就一定要实现诺言,树立在孩子心中的诚信。
The children appear mental weariness, you play a decisive role, you like to talk to him and the first smile, friendly smile, you will be accused of taboo, the other as an equal with you people, patted his shoulder or touch his head. Said: "it looks good (TV show). It looks fun."." "Let's go together."! Can you tell me something about it? "The end of the TV program or the end of the game." can we make an appointment?" "If you can answer a question I asked, you can play for half an hour." As long as he answers, you must fulfill your promise and build up the faith in your child's heart.

四, 发现孩子遇到的潜在的学习困难
Four, discover the potential learning difficulties that children encounter
大多数不爱学习的孩子都存在不同程度的注意力不集中的现象,甚至一些孩子存在学习困难。注意力不集中也是学习困难的一种表现,但还有的孩子会出现阅读障碍,读写障碍等现象,表现在平时的学习中就是阅读时跳字漏行,看反字,倒字,镜像字等,比如在英语学习中,时常出现把b写成d, p写成q等。很多父母以为这是孩子粗心,马虎,学习习惯不好,其实孩子正在经受学习困难的干扰。这类孩子自然无法很好的学习,很多学习困难的孩子甚至会出现厌学现象。对待这类孩子家长不能把问题都归因为孩子粗心大意,错误的归因对帮助孩子一点帮助都没有,我们要首先帮助孩子改善学习困难,才能提高孩子的学习效率,从而进一步提高孩子学习的积极性。
Most children who do not love to study have different levels of attention deficit, and even some children have learning difficulties. A manifestation of inattention is learning difficulties, but also the children will be reading disorder, dyslexia and other phenomena, reading is in the usual study when leakage jumps, see the word, but the word, the word image, for example in learning English, often to write B D. P written in Q. Many parents think that this is careless children, careless, bad habits of learning, in fact, the children are experiencing interference with learning difficulties. This kind of children naturally can not very good learning, many children with learning difficulties will even appear tired of learning. For the children of parents is no problem to be negligent because children are not wrong, due to help children a little help, we want to help children improve learning difficulties, to improve children's learning efficiency, so as to further improve the children's enthusiasm for learning.
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